Only you can protect yourself from a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath. You CAN do this ALWAYS.

Narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths are all around us.   It is estimated that one in 14 people have this character disturbance and I do not agree with this number and believe it is a higher number with a global presence. There is a myth that they are locked up, serial killers and in the prison system. While some are locked up and some are serial killers one in twelve people are amongst us, in our communities, hospitals, government, schools, places of worship and other typical places we go to by choice or need without anticipating that we are amongst those who intend to harm, destroy, destruct others and are  primarily overlooked, under the radar and free to wreak havoc on our people, family, children and communities. 

This character disturbance does not discriminate according to where you were born, what class or ethnicity you were born into or how wealthy or poor you were.     The number of people walking around creating havoc, terror, destruction, abuse and demise to others in our communities, places we trust, our families and places of recreation and worship are staggering.

Until we embrace the truth, the facts, the pandemic, the character disturbed will continue to run amuck, causing demise to the lives they touch.

There are telltale signs that we are dealing with a narcissist or sociopath.  I am not referring to people with narcissistic traits, individuals who have anger management problems or lack empathic or sensitive responses to others.  For many reasons there are many people who have the traits of a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath, YET ARE NOT that.    At times in our lives, different stages of development, when life stressors are overwhelming, during transitions or bursts of development, due to substances, poverty, hardship or crisis, people may exhibit these traits.   Exhibiting these traits does not make a person character disordered.  It is the consistent, chronic and unyielding behaviors, response to others, pattern of interpersonal complications, characterized by lack of empathy or accountability that separates people going through a rough or transition time from those with the actual disorder.     Once we are equipped at identifying and understanding the actual traits and the prevalence of consistent patterns of behavior, it becomes obvious who is masquerading as a decent human being whilst living with the disturbances.  Only through education, observation, self reflection and trusting our inner voice, intuition no matter what, are we able to identify these folks and eliminate contact with them.    There is no positive or productive contact, relationship, scenario or situation in which we enter into, engage, be in a relationship with, maintain a relationship with or have anything at all to do with a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath.  While the interactions may have times of calm or even favorable, seemingly positive or unproblematic moments, eventually the relationship, no matter who it is between, grows from problematic to lethal, no matter what the relationship is between the character disordered and the target.  Whether it is your parent, religious leader, coach, friend or lover, ultimately the one who is not character disordered will be brought down, violated, manipulated, tricked, harmed, upset, devastated, in a state of deterioration of health, finances, emotional stability and weakened in all areas.  There is no opportunity to regulate the type or level of damage these folks cause others and therefore no matter who the narcissist or sociopath is, to live, thrive, prosper and grow, it is critical to eliminate them from your life permanently and with no contact at all.  Until you have removed yourself from them in every way, you are operating on a damage control modality and that is counter productive to happiness, healthy, prosperity and stability.   

There is no reasoning, managing, negotiating or compromising with these disorders.  No contact is the only chance you have to rebuild, create and maintain stability in all areas of your life and to be happy and productive.    Continuing to engage a narcissist, sociopath, psychopath is choosing to sacrifice, surrender and lose your health, mental health, confidence, finances, self esteem, time, relationships with other people and every other valuable and critical necessity of human happy and healthy human experience and existence.   If your goal is to live in a state of suffering, stagnation, chaos, fractured relationships with all people suffering from impaired health, decreasing mental health and time that is wasted and lost completely, exposing yourself to any relationship with any narcissist or sociopath guarantees this fragile, wasted and tragic state.   You owe it to yourself, your children, your family and humanity to cut your ties, shake yourself off and take responsibility for the scary yet beautiful fact that the only person who can save you, is you and you are worth living a life of stability, health, growth, happiness, prosperity and all the beautiful things that you were intended for an narcissists and sociopaths have no access to.

Education and knowing who is a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath are critical to knowing who to stay away from.  Your intuition will guide you and you must follow it and not be influenced by the opinions of other people or group consensus or norm.  There are many people who are viewed favorably or in positions of power or prestige who are the exact character disturbed people we have to avoid to save ourselves.  If you trust your intuition, are educated on the warning signs, causes and traits of these folks and are alert to warning signs, it’s easier to avoid or cut off toxic people.  It’s like this.  When you enter into or stay in a relationship with one of these folks, no matter who they are in relation to you, you are targeted.  Their goal is control, destroy and destruct the target.  You either are slowly ruined or completely devoured until you get out of the relationship, cut it off, have no contact and do not look back.  Whether they are a friend, your parent, a sibling, Doctor, hair stylist, coach, lover or religious leader is irrelevant.  You cut them off or be destroyed.  It’s that simple.   With the numbers being that one in 10-14 people are character disturbed, abusers, cluster B personality disordered, the statistics indicate that at some point in your life you will be subject to these folks and when that happens, only you can protect yourself.