Real Talk about real narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths.

As they entered the door his face changed.   The broad, almost grimacing smile twisted then flattened into a deadpan fish eye stare.   As he entered the home he dropped the babies bag in the foyer and trudged forward toward the stairs.    One toddler accidentally toppled over and banged her tiny head on the side of the stair gate.     A fresh peach bruise appeared as she shrieked in fear and pain.   Without even glancing at the child he stepped right over.   He did not look back.    As the baby began to wail and sob she sped to the toddler’s side.   Another child concerned and worried bent beside her mother. "Does she need ice?   Can I get her a band aid?” The mother cradled the screaming toddler and kissed the top of her head.   The other children appeared gathering around, quietly sensing the moment was serious one but not for the reasons that a child normally would.   Tenderly tracing her sister’s...

Her eyes glistened like two flawless emeralds as she spoke, calmly, evenly without the type of gestures, hand movements or dramatic flair you would expect from such a royal and glamorous looking woman.   In another situation she would be on a movie set, on a beach in Costa Rica, flitting around a boisterous party in the Hamptons, laughing in a Cigar bar after work with colleagues,   or laughing loudly with friends over lunch on the Upper East side of New York.   She would hold court.    A gracious queen,   responding to her admirers.   Her accent gave her an air of royalty that comes with beauty.   The same accent on a less attractive and magnetic woman would make her stand out as “immigrant”, mark her as different , not being one   of the original ones who belong….the world is more accepting of beauty. Without missing a beat she described how her X made her sleep on the floor when she returned from the hospital with a newborn baby. ...

     It is estimated that one in 14 people has attachment disorder, reactive attachment disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, dual diagnosis of substance abuse and an Axis 2 diagnosis etc.  What does this mean?  As a therapist, this means that I am working with more character disturbed younger people then presented with these bone chilling disturbances than I did twenty years ago.    As a therapist I am actively participating in navigating the horror these characters create in the wake of their tantrums, their vengeance their vindictive behaviors, gas lighting, smear campaigns, stalking, Hoovering and reappearing in the lives of their targets in order to not allow them to escape their deadly grasp. As a person, just a person who has navigated the demise of the narcissistic sociopath, I have met many other survivors along the way.  By survivor I mean a person who has escaped completely, entered the wake of financial demise these ...

When people are dealing with the after shock of ending a relationship with a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath, they often wish to discuss the bizarre yet predictable behaviors that they were subjected to.   They find themselves ruminating about how or why the narc moved on and point out that the narc has a new source of supply.  In reality there was most likely overlap as that is what narcs do, they can’t survive without supply and they do not operate with the ethics or style of healthy adults.   They have no problem maintaining a harem and they are not selective and will sleep with anyone who shows interest in them. This "supply" is their life line, vital to their ability to live and they need it to carry on.    For this reason, they are like sharks feeding whenever and as often as they can and that means, they are committed to, married to, said they were exclusive with you, and they continue to indiscriminately troll the dating scene and sleep with...